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Being ME and Being Ok With It – Melissa Emanuel

Being ME and Being Ok With It I’m not everybody’s cup of tea and I am ok with that, really I am.  I have tried to be likable by everyone in the past and have gone just about crazy doing it.  I have tried to mold into what everyone else wanted/needed from ME and have…

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Being ME and Being Ok With It

I’m not everybody’s cup of tea and I am ok with that, really I am.  I have tried to be likable by everyone in the past and have gone just about crazy doing it.  I have tried to mold into what everyone else wanted/needed from ME and have lost myself in doing that.  So one day, I admitted “I am NOT for everyone and I AM ok with it.”  By admitting those words, it was liberating.  By actually saying those words out loud, I freed my soul and really began to find my true ME again.  By finding my true ME, I began to be even happier.

So in reality, I was going about it all wrong.  I was trying to be happy by making others happy instead of focusing on ME first.  Isn’t that the case most times with women, we want others to be happy, healthy, well taken cared of and oftentimes, (heck, MOST TIMES) we forget, and in turn, neglect ourselves.

See, once I got out of the please-everyone-else cycle and accepted (and liked!) ME for ME, I found that I was able to be happy.  And that in order for ME to truly be happy, I had to put ME first.  Then and only then, could I have a more positive impact on other people in my life.

NOW don’t get me wrong, I do not go out and purposely try to make myself the most important person in the universe.  Quite the contrary.  I find that if I can get to my happy first, then I strive to make a positive outcome for others I come in contact with during the day.

PS – I know our happiness is our own creation, but I like to spread joy if possible!

Melissa Emanuel is a proud partner, speaker and co-conspirator of LoseYourExcuseNOW.com.  She believes in empowering women, coaching them to be strong, accept and be themselves and what a better way to start than with “A Beautiful Me®.”

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The Ultimate Cosmetic – Pam Evans

The Ultimate Cosmetic I’ve discovered the ultimate cosmetic! This beauty treatment produces an all-over facial glow, enhances eyes and redistributes wrinkles. Best of all, it’s free! What is this amazing product? It’s called “A Simple Smile”. That’s right ladies! Although all of us have “A Simple Smile” in our arsenal, we may not have read…

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The Ultimate Cosmetic

I’ve discovered the ultimate cosmetic! This beauty treatment produces an all-over facial glow, enhances eyes and redistributes wrinkles. Best of all, it’s free!

What is this amazing product? It’s called “A Simple Smile”.

That’s right ladies! Although all of us have “A Simple Smile” in our arsenal, we may not have read the fine print as to the proper use and application of this commodity. When circumstances are pleasant and enjoyable, “A Simple Smile” appears automatically. But do we apply it when life throws us a curve ball?

During stressful periods our faces show signs of tired eyes and pale, drooping cheeks. It seems that no amount of mascara and blush will add life to our listless look.  It is during these trials that “A Simple Smile” must be applied most generously. While this will require a conscious effort, using your faith as an applicator can help ease the process.

Feeling skeptical? Why not try it right now? Curl your lips in an upward position and allow them to slightly separate. For added fun, allow a gentle giggle to rise up from your abdomen. Did your cheeks lift and tighten? Are your eyes feeling fresher? Did your mood improve? When properly applied, “A Simple Smile” can positively change your demeanor in a matter of seconds.

Not only does this amazing product affect your personal happiness, when shared with others it is almost contagious! During the course of the day, look someone in the eye and give them “A Simple Smile”. Chances are their lips will automatically rise and separate; infusing them with a sense of joy. Wow! Who knew “A Simple Smile” could be so potent?

Now that that you are aware of the proper use and application of the ultimate cosmetic, share it lavishly!

Guest bloggist, Pam Evans, is a proud supporter of “A Beautiful Me®” and is the Chapter Development Liaison at Woman’s Life Insurance Society. To learn more about fun, friendship and financially supported community outreach visit womanslife.org.

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Own Your Beauty & Greatness – Stacy Washington

Own Your Beauty & Greatness My mother named me Stacey because she thought it was a great name for a secretary.  When I was born, women (especially black women) didn’t commonly aspire to be lawyers.  I’ve met and worked with fabulous secretaries who often knew more than their bosses.  I respect them greatly.  But, I…

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Own Your Beauty & Greatness

My mother named me Stacey because she thought it was a great name for a secretary.  When I was born, women (especially black women) didn’t commonly aspire to be lawyers.  I’ve met and worked with fabulous secretaries who often knew more than their bosses.  I respect them greatly.  But, I wanted more.

I told my mother I wanted to go to law school.  I was in eleventh grade.  My own mother tried to discourage me.  Like a good teenager, I defied my mother.  I am now the only attorney in my family.

Over the years, I’ve navigated many obstacles and temporary setbacks in this traditionally male profession.  I’ve frequently felt that I was judged more by my physical beauty than my intellect.  I can tell some people try to manipulate me simply because I’m a woman. Sadly, when I go to court, I am often the only female (especially black) I see who is not a court reporter or defendant. I stopped down playing my looks years ago and use to my advantage some people’s underestimation of my ability.  I am now working diligently to be one of the best drunk driving defense attorneys (male or female) in Michigan.

Too often, women don’t support each other.  We don’t stand up for ourselves enough.  We don’t accept compliments or help.  We criticize.

I have my own daughter in college now.  She’s not sure what she wants to be professionally.  But, I’ve always told her that I support whatever endeavor she chooses.  I remind her that she is beautiful (inside and out) as well as smart.  I encourage her to speak up for herself and appreciate all that she is as a woman.  Accept a compliment with a simple “thank you.”  You’re great.  Own it.

Guest bloggist, Stacey M. Washington, is a supporter of “A Beautiful Me®”, an attorney in Michigan and author of a blog on drunk driving.  www.smwashingtonlaw.com/blog

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Embrace The Milestones – Jennifer Meyers

Embrace the Milestones As women we like to think we’ve got it all figured out; that we’re the best moms, the best wives, the best employees, the most creative, the best at multi-tasking etc. There’s something inside of us, well most of us if we admit it, that makes us want to strive for perfection.…

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Embrace the Milestones

As women we like to think we’ve got it all figured out; that we’re the best moms, the best wives, the best employees, the most creative, the best at multi-tasking etc. There’s something inside of us, well most of us if we admit it, that makes us want to strive for perfection. We want people to see us as strong, independent, stylish, and smart. But let’s face it – even if we live to be 100 we’ll most likely never achieve all the things we continue to add to our TO DO lists. We have good intentions and we have what we think are fool proof plans, but then things like life get in the way. We’re let go from a job, we have relationship issues, or we’re dealt a new obstacle that we didn’t ask for.

Eight years ago I had a lot on my TO DO list when out of the blue I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Within a matter of weeks my entire world was turned upside down. I had a son away at college and a daughter in the 5th grade. Giving in to the cancer was not an option. I went through a long year of surgeries, chemo and radiation … I lost my hair and even my spirit for a while – BUT I was lucky. I had a great support system. Sometimes the worst thing that can happen to us can turn out to be one of the best. That doesn’t mean I’d ever want to endure cancer again, but I do believe in looking for a positive in every situation and in my case there were plenty. Often it’s how we rise to a challenge that defines our character.

I’ve learned the importance of milestones; like getting my health back, becoming a cancer advocate, finding my voice through my writing, accepting that there will always be things in my life I cannot control, and birthdays. A lot of people are intimidated by age, but not me. I’m thrilled to have celebrated 50. It’s important to embrace each new milestone that comes your way with excitement and pride; whether it’s your child’s high school or college graduation, a wedding, or when you achieve something that is important to you. Always celebrate and live each day to the fullest.

Jennifer Meyers is a proud supporter of “A Beautiful Me®”, a wife, mother, cancer survivor, and Macomb Daily Blogging Partner. Her blog can be found at ANewSeasonOfInsights.blogspot.com or www.Facebook.com/ANewSeasonOfInsights.

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Pimples Do Not Discriminate – Monica Drake

Pimples Do Not Discriminate Even a century after the Women’s Rights Movement, women are still, many times, made to feel lesser than their male counterparts. We are taught not to be too pure or too sexual. Don’t be too vocal or too strong or too skinny or too big. And, above all else, make sure…

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Pimples Do Not Discriminate

Even a century after the Women’s Rights Movement, women are still, many times, made to feel lesser than their male counterparts.

We are taught not to be too pure or too sexual. Don’t be too vocal or too strong or too skinny or too big. And, above all else, make sure to be beautiful.

For most of my life, I’ve had low self-confidence. I was the first girl in middle school to get a pimple, which meant I was given the nickname “Rudolph” for the red dot that developed on my nose. I couldn’t help but compare myself to the other girls in school, who had flawless skin, and notice that I never heard anyone make fun of the boys if their faces broke out.

Later in life, I realized that, sadly, most women have at least one thing they wish they could change about their appearance.

As women, we need to stop comparing ourselves to other women or wishing our lives were different. All women are unique — and that is what makes us beautiful.

I remember, several years ago, I met a Hollywood make-up artist. And he talked about when he worked with a model. Once he finished her make-up, she looked up at him, with tears in her eyes, and asked, “Do I look pretty?”

This story has stuck with me. It made me realize that self-consciousness does not discriminate. It happens to all of us, and, when I compare myself to another woman, she is probably feeling the same way about herself.

I think, the first step to feeling beautiful is to realize that you are not alone. The second is to know that there is nothing wrong with you. And, once you feel good about yourself, the world will no longer be able to put you down.

Monica Drake is a supporter of “A Beautiful Me®.” She works as the Community Engagement Editor at www.theoaklandpress.com, based in Pontiac, Michigan, and is author of the blog www.opmeant2live.blogspot.com.

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